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Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 10.24.5

ఉదాసీనోఽరివద్ వర్జ్య ఆత్మవత్ సుహృదుచ్యతే ॥ ౫ ॥
udāsīno ’ri-vad varjya
[udaaseeno ’ri-vad varjya]
ātma-vat suhṛd ucyate
[aatma-vat suhrid uchyate]
udāsīnaḥ — one who is indifferent ari - vat — just like an enemy varjyaḥ — is to be avoided ātma - vat — like one’s own self suhṛt — a friend ucyate — is said to be .
Blended reading (Sanskrit + English inline)
udāsīno ’ri-vad varjya
udāsīnaḥ
one who is indifferent
ari - vat
just like an enemy
ātma-vat suhṛd ucyate
varjyaḥ
is to be avoided
ātma - vat
like one’s own self
suhṛt
a friend
ucyate
is said to be .
  • udāsīnaḥ — the neutral, indifferent one
    From ud + √ās — 'sitting apart.' In nīti-śāstra, the udāsīna is the third party whose neutrality may turn either way. Kṛṣṇa flags this category to make a point: a mere rain-supplier with no personal love for Vraja sits in exactly this risky position.
  • ari - vat — like an enemy
    Compound: ari (enemy) + vat (like). The neutral is to be treated with the caution of an enemy — Kṛṣṇa is hinting that the formal supplier-recipient relation with Indra is not the safe ground Vraja imagines it to be.
  • ātma - vat — like one's own self
    Compound: ātma (self) + vat (like). The standard for a friend (suhṛt). Gauḍīya weight: the only relation worth full investment is one where the other is held as one's own — the relation Vraja already has with Kṛṣṇa Himself, though they have not yet realized it doctrinally.
  • suhṛt — well-wisher, friend
    Literally su (good) + hṛt (heart) — the good-hearted one. In the Gītā Kṛṣṇa names Himself suhṛdaṁ sarva-bhūtānām (5.29). The verse subtly raises the bar: only Bhagavān fits the role suhṛt names in its fullness.
One who is neutral may be avoided like an enemy, but a friend should be considered like one’s own self.

Even if Nanda Mahārāja did not see friends, enemies and neutral parties as entirely equal, Lord Kṛṣṇa, being Nanda Mahārāja’s son, was certainly a most trustworthy friend and should therefore not be left out of intimate discussions. In other words, Nanda Mahārāja might have thought that as a householder he could not act on the highest saintly platform, and thus Lord Kṛṣṇa furnished additional reasons why His father should trust Him and reveal the entire purpose of the sacrifice. According to Śrīla Jīva Gosvāmī, Nanda Mahārāja stood silent, doubting his position of parental aloofness, since Garga Muni had predicted that his son would be “equal to Nārāyaṇa in His qualities,” and the young boy had already conquered and killed many powerful demons.

— A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupāda
Viśvanātha Cakravartī Ṭhākura Gauḍīya
Translation
One who is neutral may be avoided like an enemy, but a friend should be considered like one's own self.
Commentary

Someone may say, "As this is a secret affair, we should not tell a small boy with little intelligence." Thus Krsna utters statements which reveal that he is very learned. "Those who are of good character see all other people on the same level as themselves. They do not see in terms of distinctions of self and others, including friends, enemies and neutrals. Such persons do not hide any actions from me." "But we are grhasthas, and cannot follow such standards." To answer that objection he says, "One should give up those who are apathetic as if they were enemies." Ujvalanilamani defines the tatastha or neutral person as "the friends of the opposing group." The neutral person is not an enemy or a friend, and should not be avoided nor accepted. Therefore he is included among those to be avoided. "But one should have faith in the friend as ones very self. I am more than a friend; I am an intimate."

Jīva Gosvāmī Gauḍīya
Commentary

He requests Nanda to tell him twice, to show his desire to hear. “Understand that this will please me.” Or “What is the use of telling you, since you are only a child?” I have a desire to hear. You should fulfill the desires of your son. Or, according to the rule that dharma should be taught to those desiring to hear, you must tell me since I have that desire. By calling his father again, he shows his strong affection. He knew about this sacrifice from previous years but asked out of sarcasm and to show disrespect for Indra. Being uncertain what to say, since Garga had said Kṛṣṇa was equal to Nārāyaṇa and he had killed many powerful demons, Nanda was silent. Kṛṣṇa again spoke to him. Since the devotees do not commit sin, they have no secret activities. The devotees are described by three adjectival phrases. They see Paramātmā everywhere (sarvaṭmanām) in the universe (iha). (They have no conception of “mine” or “another’s” and who do not consider who is a friend, who is an enemy and who is neutral.) Since you have all these qualities you should not hide your activities from me. “If we are engaged in worshipping Indra for our own benefit, how can we see Paramātmā everywhere?” Perhaps you even see with conceptions of “mine and theirs.” But still you should not hide your actions from me. You should exclude those who are indifferent, since the effect of the mantras will be absent. But I am most intimate among all friends as your son and should not be excluded from the secret.

Related values
Anahankarah (Freedom from False Ego)Aparigraha (Non-possessiveness)Karuna (Kindness / Compassion)
Related verses
Concepts
Dharma

A traveler on the road steers around the indifferent stranger as cautiously as he would around a known bandit, but treats the friend who walks beside him as he treats his own body. Kṛṣṇa names two narrow gates of relation — and quietly excludes a third, the merely transactional party such as Indra has become for Vraja.

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