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Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 7.12.8

केशप्रसाधनोन्मर्दस्‍नपनाभ्यञ्जनादिकम् । गुरुस्त्रीभिर्युवतिभि: कारयेन्नात्मनो युवा ॥ ८ ॥
keśa-prasādhanonmarda-
[kesha-prasaadhanonmarda-]
snapanābhyañjanādikam
[snapanaabhyanjanaadikam]
guru-strībhir yuvatibhiḥ
[guru-streebhir yuvatibhih]
kārayen nātmano yuvā
[kaarayen naatmano yuvaa]
keśa-prasādhana — brushing the hair unmarda — massaging the body snapana — bathing abhyañjana-ādikam — massaging the body with oil and so on guru-strībhiḥ — by the wife of the spiritual master yuvatibhiḥ — very young kārayet — should allow to do na — never ātmanaḥ — for personal service yuvā — if the student is a young man.
Blended reading (Sanskrit + English inline)
keśa-prasādhanonmarda-
keśa-prasādhana
brushing the hair
unmarda
massaging the body
snapanābhyañjanādikam
snapana
bathing
abhyañjana-ādikam
massaging the body with oil and so on
guru-strībhir yuvatibhiḥ
guru-strībhiḥ
by the wife of the spiritual master
yuvatibhiḥ
very young
kārayen nātmano yuvā
kārayet
should allow to do
na
never
ātmanaḥ
for personal service
yuvā
if the student is a young man.
If the wife of the spiritual master is young, a young brahmacārī should not allow her to care for his hair, massage his body with oil, or bathe him with affection like a mother.

The relationship between the student or disciple and the wife of the spiritual master or teacher is like that between son and mother. A mother sometimes cares for her son by combing his hair, massaging his body with oil, or bathing him. Similarly, the wife of the teacher is also a mother ( guru-patnī ), and therefore she may also care for the disciple in a motherly way. If the wife of the teacher is a young woman, however, a young brahmacārī should not allow such a mother to touch him. This is strictly prohibited. There are seven kinds of mothers:

ātma-mātā guroḥ patnī brāhmaṇī rāja-patnikā dhenur dhātrī tathā pṛthvī saptaitā mātaraḥ smṛtāḥ

These mothers are the original mother, the wife of the teacher or spiritual master, the wife of a brāhmaṇa, the king’s wife, the cow, the nurse and the earth. Unnecessary association with women, even with one’s mother, sister or daughter, is strictly prohibited. This is human civilization. A civilization that allows men to mix unrestrictedly with women is an animal civilization. In Kali-yuga, people are extremely liberal, but mixing with women and talking with them as equals actually constitutes an uncivilized way of life.

— A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupāda
Viśvanātha Cakravartī Ṭhākura Gauḍīya
Translation
If the wife of the guru is young, a young brahmacārī should not allow her to dress his hair, massage his body with oil, or bathe him with affection like a mother. If the wife of the guru sees the student as a son out of affection and wants to dress his hair or do other such services by her own will, it should not be allowed.
If the guru's wife is young, the brahmacārī should not allow her to oil his hair, massage him, or bathe him like a mother. Even legitimate motherly care has bounds. The relationship is real; the boundary is also real.
Reflection Questions
  • Where is a legitimate relationship in your life lacking explicit boundaries?
  • What honest constraint would honor both the relationship and the danger?
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