Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 4.3.19
तथारिभिर्न व्यथते शिलीमुखै:
शेतेऽर्दिताङ्गो हृदयेन दूयता ।
स्वानां यथा वक्रधियां दुरुक्तिभि-
र्दिवानिशं तप्यति मर्मताडित: ॥ १९ ॥
tathāribhir na vyathate śilīmukhaiḥ
[tathaaribhir na vyathate shileemukhaih]
śete ’rditāṅgo hṛdayena dūyatā
[shete ’rditaango hridayena dooyataa]
svānāṁ yathā vakra-dhiyāṁ duruktibhir
[svaanaam yathaa vakra-dhiyaam duruktibhir]
divā-niśaṁ tapyati marma-tāḍitaḥ
[divaa-nisham tapyati marma-taaditah]
Word-for-word
tathā
—
so
aribhiḥ
—
enemy
na
—
not
vyathate
—
is hurt
śilīmukhaiḥ
—
by the arrows
śete
—
rests
ardita
—
aggrieved
aṅgaḥ
—
a part
hṛdayena
—
by the heart
dūyatā
—
grieving
svānām
—
of relatives
yathā
—
as
vakra-dhiyām
—
deceitful
duruktibhiḥ
—
by harsh words
divā-niśam
—
day and night
tapyati
—
suffers
marma-tāḍitaḥ
—
one whose feelings are hurt.
Blended reading (Sanskrit + English inline)
tathāribhir na vyathate śilīmukhaiḥ
tathā
so
aribhiḥ
enemy
na
not
vyathate
is hurt
śilīmukhaiḥ
by the arrows
śete ’rditāṅgo hṛdayena dūyatā
śete
rests
svānāṁ yathā vakra-dhiyāṁ duruktibhir
divā-niśaṁ tapyati marma-tāḍitaḥ
ardita
aggrieved
aṅgaḥ
a part
hṛdayena
by the heart
dūyatā
grieving
svānām
of relatives
yathā
as
vakra-dhiyām
deceitful
duruktibhiḥ
by harsh words
divā-niśam
day and night
tapyati
suffers
marma-tāḍitaḥ
one whose feelings are hurt.
Lord Śiva continued: If one is hurt by the arrows of an enemy, one is not as aggrieved as when cut by the unkind words of a relative, for such grief continues to rend one’s heart day and night.
Purport
Satī might have concluded that she would take the risk of going to her father’s house and even if her father spoke unkindly against her she would be tolerant, as a son sometimes tolerates the reproaches of his parents. But Lord Śiva reminded her that she would not be able to tolerate such unkind words because natural psychology dictates that although one can suffer harm from an enemy and not mind so much because pain inflicted by an enemy is natural, when one is hurt by the strong words of a relative, one suffers the effects continually, day and night, and sometimes the injury becomes so intolerable that one commits suicide.
— A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupāda
Gauḍīya Ācāryas
Viśvanātha Cakravartī Ṭhākura
Gauḍīya
Translation
Injured in the limbs by arrows fired by enemies, one does not suffer much and can sleep. However, injured by harsh words uttered by relatives of crooked mind, one suffers day and night with distressed heart.
Such friends are worse than enemies. Limbs pained by the arrows fired by an enemy do not hurt so much, since one can still sleep. Injured by harsh words of relatives, one suffers pain day and night with a distressed heart (hṛdayena dūyatā).
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Personal Guidance
Arrows of enemies hurt less than unkind words from relatives — kinship multiplies the wound. Be doubly careful with your words to family; they cut where they cannot be undone. Don't underestimate what casual sharpness does at home.
Reflection Questions
- What sharp words have I directed at family that I should now repair?
- How does the awareness of multiplied wounding change how I will speak at home?
My note
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