Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 4.3.16
श्रीभगवानुवाच
त्वयोदितं शोभनमेव शोभने
अनाहुता अप्यभियन्ति बन्धुषु ।
ते यद्यनुत्पादितदोषदृष्टयो
बलीयसानात्म्यमदेन मन्युना ॥ १६ ॥
śrī-bhagavān uvāca
[shree-bhagavaan uvaacha]
tvayoditaṁ śobhanam eva śobhane
[tvayoditam shobhanam eva shobhane]
anāhutā apy abhiyanti bandhuṣu
[anaahutaa apy abhiyanti bandhushu]
te yady anutpādita-doṣa-dṛṣṭayo
[te yady anutpaadita-dosha-drishtayo]
balīyasānātmya-madena manyunā
[baleeyasaanaatmya-madena manyunaa]
Word-for-word
śrī-bhagavān uvāca
—
the great lord replied
tvayā
—
by you
uditam
—
said
śobhanam
—
is true
eva
—
certainly
śobhane
—
my dear beautiful wife
anāhutāḥ
—
without being invited
api
—
even
abhiyanti
—
go
bandhuṣu
—
among friends
te
—
those (friends)
yadi
—
if
anutpādita-doṣa-dṛṣṭayaḥ
—
not finding fault
balīyasā
—
more important
anātmya-madena
—
by pride caused by identification with the body
manyunā
—
by anger.
Blended reading (Sanskrit + English inline)
śrī-bhagavān uvāca
śrī-bhagavān uvāca
the great lord replied
tvayoditaṁ śobhanam eva śobhane
tvayā
by you
uditam
said
śobhanam
is true
eva
certainly
śobhane
my dear beautiful wife
anāhutā apy abhiyanti bandhuṣu
anāhutāḥ
without being invited
api
even
abhiyanti
go
bandhuṣu
among friends
te yady anutpādita-doṣa-dṛṣṭayo
te
those (friends)
yadi
if
anutpādita-doṣa-dṛṣṭayaḥ
not finding fault
balīyasānātmya-madena manyunā
balīyasā
more important
anātmya-madena
by pride caused by identification with the body
manyunā
by anger.
The great lord replied: My dear beautiful wife, you have said that one may go to a friend’s house without being invited, and this is true, provided such a friend does not find fault with the guest because of bodily identification and thereby become angry towards him.
Purport
Lord Śiva could foresee that as soon as Satī reached her father’s house, her father, Dakṣa, being too puffed up because of bodily identification, would be angry at her presence, and although she was innocent and faultless, he would be mercilessly angry towards her. Lord Śiva warned that since her father was too puffed up by his material possessions, he would be angry, and this would be intolerable for her. Therefore it was better that she not go. This fact was already experienced by Lord Śiva because although Lord Śiva was faultless, Dakṣa had cursed him in so many harsh words.
— A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupāda
Gauḍīya Ācāryas
Viśvanātha Cakravartī Ṭhākura
Gauḍīya
Translation
Śiva said: Dear wife! What you have said is correct. Uninvited, friends go their friends, if those friends do not see faults because of anger or strong pride, caused by identification with the body.
The friends should not see faults because of anger or strong pride caused by identity with the body (anātmya-madena).
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Personal Guidance
Śiva grants the principle but flags the exception — yes, one can visit a friend uninvited, unless that 'friend' is fixated on bodily identification and angry at the guest. Identify the exception before applying the rule.
Reflection Questions
- What general principle am I applying without checking for the disqualifying exception?
- Whose body-fixation am I underestimating in my relationship calculations?
My note
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