Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam 10.32.17
Blended reading (Sanskrit + English inline)
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mithaḥ
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mutually
Adverb: with each other. Mithaḥ-bhajanti names quid pro quo love — affection contingent on its return. Gauḍīyas distinguish this from suddha-bhakti (pure devotion), which is unconditional: Bhagavān is served whether He reciprocates immediately or not.
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sakhyaḥ
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friends
From √sac — to associate with. Sakhya is one of the five Vaiṣṇava rasas, but here Kṛṣṇa is using the term in its ordinary sense: people who call each other friends. The Vraja cowherd boys are true sakhyas; mutual self-seekers are sakhyas in name only.
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sva - artha
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for their own sake
Compound: sva (own) + artha (purpose, gain). Sva-artha is the technical opposite of para-artha (for another's sake). Bhakti is defined precisely as activity done not for sva-artha but for kṛṣṇa-artha — Kṛṣṇa's pleasure alone.
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sauhṛdam
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true friendship
From su- (good) + hṛd (heart) — good-heartedness. Sauhṛda is the more technical Sanskrit term for genuine friendship, distinguished from contractual reciprocity. Kṛṣṇa says self-interested relations contain no sauhṛda at all.
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dharmaḥ
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true religiosity
From √dhṛ — to uphold. Dharma in Bhāgavata is what upholds the relation between jīva and Bhagavān (cf. 1.2.6: sa vai puṁsāṁ paro dharmaḥ — bhakti is the highest dharma). Self-seeking reciprocity does not uphold anything; it is dharma-shaped but dharma-empty.
The Lord here reminds the gopīs that in pure loving friendship there is no sense of selfish interest but rather only love for one’s friend.
Understanding the intention of the gopis, Krsna answered. "Those who respect each other in expectation of results, are enthusiastic for attaining results for themselves in the present and future. These people actually only respect themselves, and not others. They respect each other (tat) because there is no other way to get results for themselves (svatmanam). They are selfish persons, with conditional love. Among these people, there is no prema (sauhrdam). There is also no permanent dharma."
These people act on for themselves, in terms of results in this life and the next. bhajanti ye yathā devān devā api tathaiva tān: those who worship the devatās receive reciprocation from the devatās in a way corresponding to the offering. (SB 11.2.6) Devatās give Svarga when they are satisfied with sacrifices. Cows and buffalos give milk when they are satisfied. These people are intent only on their own gains. Though dharma and friendship are famous, I will refute them. Though dharma is independently one of the goals of human life, it is transformed into artha and kāma only, since it is used for selfish interests. Friendship becomes cheating because of selfish interest. This is certain (hi). They will not reciprocate by any other means except with self-interest (na anyathā). Or, there is no true friendship here. The cause is given in his saying “O friends!” We are speaking as real friends. Or, to remove their doubts that he will respond properly to the gopīs, he calls out in friendship. Śrīdhara Svāmī says that without friendship there is no happiness. Though one sees happiness without friendship (from money for instance), elevated persons do not see increase in happiness in such gross things without friendship as well. He also has his own version svātmānam instead of svārthārtham, but this version is not seen later in his explanation. Svārthārtham is accepted by Citsukha and most others. In this verse, though the respect given to others may appear otherwise, it is actually for the self.
They strive with full absorption (eka) for visible results for themselves. This excludes service to guru by devotees and service in prema. It is rejected as dharma since its goal is for the self only, though by material vision it appears to be helping others. Real service depends on a proper response. If the response is only for the purpose of removing fault, it also is not dharma. There should be absence of difference in true worship or sharing. Without equality in the assistance and repayment, sharing cannot be accomplished. According to the act there should be equal response. That is the answer to the question. And where there is no expectation of a response, that act is dharma. Hi indicates certainty. Any other method is not proper worship. Or with friendship one may compassionately act for others as one does for oneself. To show the opposite situation in the verse, he says O friend (sakhya)! One version has svātmānam instead of svārthārtham. One works for one’s own happiness (su). Tad means ca, or atha. Though there is apparently mutual benefit in this example, since the act is generated by self-interest, and depends on receiving proper response, it lacks dharma and truthfulness, and consequently is without happiness. Or this could be a typographical error. Svārthārtham is accepted by Citsukha and others. Though the worship may appear to be for other purposes it is actually for one’s own purposes. Or persons who strive for their own ends (svārthaikāntodyamā) mutually interact, like a king paying a servant. This is well known (hi). Since all people are interested in visible results, they are not described in detail.
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- Where in your relationships are you reciprocating only because you expect return?
- What would change if you started loving as a discipline rather than a transaction?
Friendship that loves only to receive is barter wearing the mask of affection — sva-artha-eka-anta-udyamāḥ, exclusively striving for one's own gain. Kṛṣṇa names this clearly: such relations are neither sauhṛda (true friendship) nor dharma. A merchant in love's clothing remains a merchant.
My note
Source: vedabase.io